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PostPosted: Wed May 06, 2009 6:13 am    Post subject: Changed our minds...coming back to Homeschool~ Reply with quote

After 3 horrible nasty months of being in public school at a new school we don't like it at all.. We had a nasty run of it before but this just settled it...what happened was Allie my youngest daughter didn't like homeschooling, the two of us would get into horrible fights. She is 10 and we have never had that between us so it was really horrible and hubby and I thought we were doing wrong. Well, let me tell ya, we found a elem about 13 miles from us and set up there with both Aric and Allie, a bit nervous about it but at the same time hoping the kids would love it. Well, it didn't work out.

A boy in Aric's class asked him if he was straight, Aric not knowing what that meant told him no. Well, that started a downward trend. Aric is now labeled a Gay and being called horrible names. Kids are treating him like he has the plague and are staying away from. I have contacted the school and princpal over and over again. And they just talk to the kids, no punishment. My Aric is miserable and Allie is not far from it.

So we are going to finish out the last 3 weeks in public school and then in the fall we are going back to homeschool. We will of course have to repurchase the books as I had sold them on ebay...not a good move let me tell ya..

We will never go back to public school now! NC schools are not what I want my kids to be a part of!

thanks and talk more soon!
Kelly
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PostPosted: Thu May 07, 2009 6:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry you had such a bad experience, but I'm glad you are able to bring them back home. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 11:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I feel so bad for your son. Is he going to be able to handle another three weeks of this horrible treatment?
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PostPosted: Tue May 12, 2009 6:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

We've taken him and my daughter out already! We had enough when the principal asked if he could be making it up. I was furious! The teacher wrote us a letter letting us know how hard she tried to get it to stop and how sorry and embarrassed she was over how he was treated. So obsiously it was't made up. She, the teacher was the one calling parents to no avail. She was a nice teacher and Aric really liked her but the kids were so mean.

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PostPosted: Tue May 12, 2009 4:29 pm    Post subject: thank goodness Reply with quote

Thank goodness you pulled them out. I don't think anyone should be subject to this type of ongoing treatment. I think I would be afraid that I would lose it on these kids and the principal. The school staff was just not doing enough for your family. These mean kids should have been suspended for such terrible behavior, or at least threatened with it. Either way though your kids will be better off at home with you. Good luck on your homeschooling adventure next year! I hope your son will be able to put this behind him quickly.
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PostPosted: Wed May 13, 2009 10:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Obviously this comes back to the parents as well...when a teacher makes calls and the parents have no follow through, these kids keep on. Some parents just dont get it and then they end up with disrespecting bullies and call it "growing up"....
Shame on those parents, and the school...kudo to the teacher who atleast TRIED.

It's a no brainer to say you did the right thing.

((HUGS))) to you and your children!!
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PostPosted: Wed May 13, 2009 12:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I am sorry to hear you had to deal with that. Sadly many parents seem to feel that when their children are in PS, that they are safe because there is adult supervision.

I have fallen into that hole also. I too will be returning to homeschooling as soon as the school year ends. It has been a very LONG and hard year for all of us. Not as hard as dealing with that.

Hope things have settled down for your family.

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PostPosted: Mon May 18, 2009 9:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Your post made me so sad...I'm glad you pulled them out and did not wait until the end of the year. Sending hugs your way...I'm sure that was incredibly stressful for you and your family. Our kids are only little for awhile and I'm sure they will learn so much more with you than in that environment.
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PostPosted: Sat May 23, 2009 1:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

That’s the sad part of putting kids in public school – being bullied and suffering from depression. You are right in your decision and it’s good that the principal apologized to you. Homeschooling is the best option for your kids because they will always be safe and comfortable at home. I hope you’re recovering now.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 11, 2009 6:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I am disgusted by the lack of ongoing support for kids being bullied at school. It is just as bad in Australia.

People underestimate the ongoing effect that bullying can have on kids... well into adulthood. I know.
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 11:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This is such a terrible situation. No kid should have to go through this in the pursuit of their studies. Unfortunately this is all too common in this day and age. It's too easy for kids to be bullied - the bullies have far more resources up their sleeves than do the teachers, who are well behind them technologically. It is a shame that it has come to this, but homeschooling and online schooling can provide the answers.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh my gosh, do I feel your pain...

We decided to spend this last school year trying out the local PS, and it was a disaster for us, too.

First off, my daugther is quite the tomboy...VERY INSISTENTLY so. Her short hair, and dislike of skirts was the first thing targeted by the kids.

Second, my daughter was....a different ethnicity than 99% (literally) of the kids in her school. This made for the second thing targeted by the other kids.

First and second led to the third thing: bullying. The kids started off calling her names, which led to trying to tell me she'd done this or that (completely false, and I called them on it immediately), which then led to her getting smacked in the head by a girl. This was the last straw for me.

I'd been talking to the various people in the Administration of the school about the things that were happening...including the principal...and nothing would get done. The first time, they did call the boys and my daughter into the office and talk to all three of them...which helped for a time. But, of course, these kids came from homes that weren't great in the least, so the problems continued. Eventually, the Administration wouldn't listen to me at all, and my daughter got hit in the head by one of them.

I brought this incident up with the Administration. I checked with my daughter DAILY to see if something had been done (they said in their Parent's Handbook that they would bring the kids into the Principal's office for such thing...but my daughter said no one had been called up or was missing from class for a bit of time). I also called the office, and was told "something was being done about it". But...the problems continued.

I wound up un-enrolling my daughter from the school a month before the year ended (it happened to have coincided with our move here), and was happy to be leaving that school behind! The good thing about it was the fact that they'd already completely all of the Year Ending testing, so she really had no further reason to continue on there.

Needless to say, I've gone back to my desire to homeschool my girl. I just cannot believe that ANY school would put up with kids hitting other kids, and do NOTHING about it! I did all I could from my end, including talking to the kids directly a couple times, telling them they should knock it off, how would you like it, that sort of thing. I had to give them what my husband and I call the Stink Eye a couple times (which worked wonders, actually, lol). I even caught the couple of boys talking rudely to her after school one day...walked up behind them, they turned around, I was quite angry, and in response to the surprised looks on their faces, said, "Yeah...I'm her MOM. You guys shouldn't talk to people like that." I don't think they expected a mom to say that. LOL!

Anyway, I know a bit of what you've been through...and have to say...MORE POWER TO YOU! It's so hard watching your kids go through such horrible things. It's really not something they should have to experience in growing up. I know people that'll say, "That's part of growing up...learning to deal with things like that." I don't agree in the least. Sure, learning how to persevere through adversity is valuable. But being called things my daughter was called, being made to feel horrible just because your skin is a different color than theirs, being made to feel awful because you like your hair short? These aren't things I think people should have to deal with.
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 03, 2011 1:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's sad how much kids have to deal with at school. I have more than one friend whose child got labeled gay because they didn't want to date.

My daughter really wanted to go to middle school so we let her. She came home crying the first day and I told her she had to try AT LEAST three days before throwing in the towel.

The second day she cried even more. She had found someone that she thought could be her friend and then this girl talked about drinking beer for breakfast.

Well, I gave up and let her homeschool and she has never once asked again. She ended up going to the Community College early and that was a much better experience.
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Welcome back! I feel your pain public schools can be down right depressing at times. I had similar experiences which brought me to the conclusion that I'd do whatever it takes to look out for the best interest of my children and not send them to public schools.
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