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[momto2girlygirls]

OK - I made my title as it is because that is what i searched and came up with nothing! I'm homeschooling my sweetest ever dd. We are in our 2nd year, she is in 2nd grade. She's an artist, loves her 2 pets & music. She has an amazing heart and loves to be helpful & create gifts for others. According to my dh, she inherited his complete and total lack of time reference!! He's very laid back. (we also have a 3yo dd)

I'm finding myself constantly addressing the issue of being LATE to the school table, moving at snail's pace through chores (seriously - a snail...she can take 30 minutes to brush her hair), being distracted from what she's supposed to be doing, etc. This has become chronic. I don't know what to do! I don't want to constantly have to "address" this with her, I need some tried and true FIXES/TECHNIQUES that you have tried and seen good results from!!! I know I cannot be the only one who deals with this!

[elliemaejune]

[Elei]

Hello Mom of the girly girls,

Now I have a boyly boy who is just like your daughter. He is also in 2nd grade now and this is our second year of homeschooling. And he is soooo sloooow.

I sometimes say in a joke that he has 3 different speeds: Slow, very slow, and not moving at all.
But sometimes it is NOT funny at all.
I've tried (and am trying) EVERYTHING: timers (I have two, one for schoolwork and one for eating), stars and all kinds of motivations programs, punishing, praising, taking away priviliges, kissing and hugging whatever you can imagine, but it just doesn't work, he doesn't care, he is slow slow slow.

He's with his shoes in his hand by the door, he's with the door of the car open waiting for I don't know what before he gets out, he can sit half an hour looking at his food before beginning, he can write 2 sums in half an hour and be doing "nothing" the rest of the time.

If anybody has any any suggestions please let us know.
By the way: HE CAN RUN VERY FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Elei.

[Lily]

We stole a Waldorf idea and use music. We have a 'good morning' playlist that sets the tone and pace for the morning chores ( Here Comes The Sun, the 2 songs from Lilo and Stitch, I'm Mad (animaniacs) and a few other more random ones)
We start off school with the theme from Schoolhouse Rock. Right now our current playlist is Mannheim Steamroller - it helps keep the pace going for more dull tasks, like writing exercises.

Punishments/rewards don't work here. I think Alfie Kohn was dead on when he said the reward is just a punishment - they're both the carrot on the stick, except one's the carrot and the other's the stick. Same thing, two different ways of getting there. The reward's the nicer version of the stick - "If you get the work done I'll play a game with you" is a nice way of saying "if you don't work, I won't play with you."



Your dd is old enough to appreciate the stories from Mrs. Piggle-wiggle, too. Whenever I feel my patience really straining we sit down with a chapter and read her magic (or not so magic!) cure about what's ailing our home. The laughter and idea that we're not alone with the problem seem to help immensely.
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