I want to hs but my husband dosen't want me to!

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I want to hs but my husband dosen't want me to!

Postby wrightno » Thu Apr 09, 2009 7:48 pm

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Postby Miss_Kristy » Fri Apr 10, 2009 12:08 pm

Why does he not want you to homeschool?

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Postby Jazzy » Fri Apr 10, 2009 12:51 pm

My husband felt that way at first, as well. In fact, when I first brought it up he said, "I don't even want to talk about homeschooling!" So much has changed since then...

I prayed about it. He found out some people he liked at work homeschooled their children and asked them a few questions about it. We went to a curriculum fair together and he saw that everyone was "normal." He eventually said we could try it for a year, and after that - we were both hooked.

Don't be discouraged. Things can change.

What are your husband's objections?

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Postby Jill » Mon Apr 13, 2009 5:27 am

Mine was the same way. He had said "no way" for a long time, but I was never really organized in my reasoning.
I took several days and made 2 lists for him...one with the pros and cons of homeschooling and one with the pros and cons of public school. I was super honest, and the lists were quite long. (Yes, there are pros to public school and yes, there are cons to homeschooling.)
I approached him in a very calm, non emotional way and presented my cases. After he saw the lists and heard what I had to say, he agreed to finishing the year at home. (We started homeschooling in November 2004.) After that first "partial" year, he was convinced.
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Postby wrightno » Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:36 pm

I think my (hubby) is old fashioned! He likes the ps tradition!
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Postby MelissaM » Mon Jun 22, 2009 6:17 am

Homeschooling is way more old fashioned. It wasn't until the 19th century that compulsory schooling in a classroom became widespread. Before that, family groups were in charge of their kid's education.
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Postby Lorelei Sieja » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:08 am

Mine wasn't in favor of HS at first, either.

Our kids weren't doing well in school, though, so he knew we had to try something. My eldest was 4th grade, and labeled "slow learner" although she learned to read when she was 2. My second child, only one year behind her, was labeled "gifted". Talk about sibling rivalry anyone? My third child didn't even start school, but when I took her to the preschool screening, they labeled her "behaviorally disturbed" because she didn't want to cooperate. (Come on, folks! She was 3! ) We both figured that I couldn't screw up our kids any worse than PS was managing to do.

He wasn't in favor of it, but a few things helped to bring him around. First off, I took him to meet a "real" family that was homeschooling. HE talked to the dad, and met the kids, and saw that they weren't "weird".

Next, after much prayer and discussion, he agreed to give me a year.

AFter that first year, our HS was so successful, that he was a firm believer. There was NEVER any issue about sending them back.

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Postby FFH » Mon Jun 29, 2009 6:01 am

I can appreciate your husband's position on homeschooling. It's normal to question the unfamiliar.

I'm a homeschool Dad, and I had reservations at first too. That was over 10 years and 5 children ago. Now my wife and I help others get started homeschooling! How ironic!

The advantages far out-weigh the disadvantages. Google "advantages of homeschooling articles". There are plenty there to digest. Some of them may help your husband as he considers homeschooling.

Who loves you child more than you do? Who wants them to succeed more than you do?

Find other men in your area who are part of homeschooling their kids, check out co-ops or homeschool groups in your area too. Even if you don't get involved with the group long term your sure to find some friends. That can be so encouraging.

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Postby Ophelia » Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:52 pm

wrightno wrote:Well,
I think my (hubby) is old fashioned! He likes the ps tradition!

Homeschooling was around long before public school! Homeschooling would be the "old fashioned" option. :D

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Postby okiron » Fri Jul 03, 2009 12:25 am

Heh my hubby didn't have an opinion about it, I was the one who was saying no way. Of course I have done a full 180 since then and now I can't wait to start homeschooling. (My son is only 5 months)
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Postby millerfamilymayhem » Fri Jul 03, 2009 9:37 pm


I find it interesting that the hubbies weren't supportive. Oddly enough though my wife is supportive, I am the ringleader of this (potential)home school odyssey.

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Postby sandysand » Mon Aug 03, 2009 2:38 am

I have the same problem, my husband says our dd should be at school with all the other kids, but with the area we live in I feel like she could get a better education at home since our schools are so under-funded. :( I just have to keep making my case.

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