Getting fed up - need to vent!
The real challenge kid is my 8 year old son. First, may I vent ? I hate my kids' school !!! I am getting mad with the way they run the system.
My 8 year old son has a LD and ADD. My husband and I also strongly believe he has some characteristics of CAPD (central auditory processing disorder) although he has already been tested by the school, and they said he does not have processing issues. However, after doing so much research on the internet, I really believe he does have some characteristics of it. He is in 2nd grade, and is currently getting help with a special ed teacher aide that comes in his class to help him with the one on one work. After trying many ways to get our son the help he needed to focus on school such as food change, going through 12 weeks Learning RX program, using auditory trainer (in 1st grade), my mom pleaded with me to get him on medication. I really did not want to, but we had tried every thing else and I felt I just could not wait for him to environmentally get better, my husband and I agreed to put him on a trial medication to see if it would help him with his attention. We noticed a dramatic improvedment in him with his handwriting, his ability to be patient, being able to stay on task, etc. however, we are having a major problem with his sleep issue. Even prior to putting him on medication, he was ALWAYS having sleep issues. I've tried rewards, motivators, punishment, etc. you name it - nothing is working. It is a battle. A couple of weeks ago, I received a generated letter from his school stating that he has been tardy to gettting to school 6 times already, and that he has 4 more chances before we (the parents) are fined $500 !!! I just lost it right there. I was so mad that I went to the school why it was necessary to send me this letter. My son had been late at least once or twice each month for various reasons such as struggling to get a lock on his bike, getting up late, etc. At first, I couldn't understand why his younger sister didn't get any thing because they were always together when they went to school. The secretary had kept track of each tardy and had a note each of it. The school counselor met with me when I wanted to go see the principal, and she assured me it was "fixable", but still I really did not like the idea that I have 4 more chances left through the remaining school year or we are fined $500. I was in tears this morning because I was having a hard time this mroning with my son getting him to move. I saw a post here someone saying their child is super super super slow, and that's exactly what my son is like. I mean the school is basically just right across the street and it should not take that much time for him to get up and get ready. I wake him up at 6 a.m. most mornings, but after waking up, he just sits on his bed like a sitting duck, then he makes his bed, sits for a while, then gets dressed, sits for a while, then puts his socks and shoes, sits for a while. This whole process can take him up to 45 minutes to an hour. I don't want to get up at 5 a.m. to give him more time to waste! His 5 year old sister gets all done in less than 20 minutes.
I've been researching on homeschooling, for about a month now, and thought I would wait till the fall to do this, but with my son's sleeping issues, and trying to get him ready to go out the door by 7:25 a.m., it is getting too stressful for me. I am not a morning person either. I bought 5 different books on homeschooling: So you're thinking about homeschooling by Lisa Whelchel (wonderful book!), Homeschooling methods, A Mom just like You by Vicki Farris (wonderful book too!), Homeschooling the challenging child. Now I am even more tempted to jump start homeschooling maybe after spring break, but at the same time, I am a little nervous about not having the right curriculum for my son and daughter. and speech therapy (for expressive speech) that he needs. My husband says he thinks I should wait till the fall so I can take the time to research on the internet and ask questions with the lcoal homeschoolers, but I just feel that the sleep issue my son has is really putting a lot on stress on me. My husband and I also went to a homeschool meeting two weeks ago to listen to someone who had taught homeschool for over 20 years - we both really enjoyed the speaker very much.
If I should pull out my son out of school, how do I inform the school? I'ma little nervous about that plus my mom used to work as an early childhood teacher's aide and has worked in the school system for many years. She seem to think homeschool would be too hard for me because I am hearing-impaired (I can speak well), and I have health issues whcih is under control. I have friends who all support this idea and know I can do it.
I'd appreciate any feedbacks