Caregiver Stress Revisited
My husband and I have four children that we adopted internationally, two as infants and two as older children. Our big girls came home with multiple undiagnosed special needs and we have spent the last two years walking through the diagnosis process and trying to regain peace in our home. Homeschooling was so challenging with the particular multiple diagnoses our big girls have that we chose to send them to a small charter school this year, hoping it would be a good fit for their needs. Unfortunately, it has not been a good fit and has even been detrimental in many ways. For a number of reasons I will be homeschooling all the children again beginning in December. I am a licensed teacher, so I am not concerned about meeting academic teaching requirements or writing learning plans for my children. What I am most concerned about is caregiver stress AND sibling stress.
Our big girls struggle with reactive attachment disorder,[i] severe[/i] post traumatic stress disorder, and developmental cognitive disabilities - possibly fetal alcohol spectrum (waiting on diagnosis).
How do you other moms with special needs kids stay healthy?
How do you keep from falling apart if you have children with extreme needs?
How do you build a support system?
How do you structure your child's day?
How do you keep caregiving and teaching the special needs child balanced with teaching your other non-special needs children?
Thank you all in advance for sharing your ideas and encouragement!