Kids should have time to play with or hang out with other kids. Regardless of what kind of schooling they get.
That does NOT mean being a kid is all about being impolite and mean. I'd never agree to that.
However public school in my experience does foster unhealthy competition which results in name calling and hostility.
Statistics: Posted by StellarStory — Mon Oct 29, 2007 1:33 pm
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And after thinking about this, I really do think kids should be polite. But, I do not think that being with your peers is going to make you unpolite. Yes, some kids that go to school are unpolite, but so are some kids that are homeschooled. In fact, the friends I had that went to public school were much more humble and polite than my homeschool friends and I considered my best friend to be someone who went to a public school.
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I guess I don't think that you are considering everything right now and that making a decision where and how to school your child is a lot more serious than if they will have enough time to play with kids or not.
Why specifically do you want to homeschool? After reading your post, I would guess that you think she is academically ahead of her peers?
If that is so, then, yes, homeschooling will allow her to stay ahead if she remains disciplined enough. She will have much more time to study and read being homeschooled than if she went to public school.
However, homeschooling will also keep your child from learning how to socially interact with her peers. If she is extroverted, then she definitely is watching her peers and learning how to interact by being with them. This is something that can not be taught at home and may not even be learned at a structured ballet class, so I think that you would need to find some activity where your daughter is making friends and learning how to interact socially from them.
So, I guess it comes down to two things - do I want my daughter to be ahead academically or do I want my daughter to perhaps suffer somewhat academically depending on the school, but learn how to interact with her peers? Also, just a thought, you could teach your daughter for half a day after kindergarten if you felt that what she was learning there was not sufficient - like what you suggested in your post.
And one last thing, the kids that are homeschooled are probably considered "weird" b/c they are not usually with their peers and are not watching and learning how to interact from them. That is probably why they are called "weird." So, even though that is mean, I can see why people at the class say that.
Also, I think that it is great that you are a stay-at home mom. Our culture is ridiculous in its thinking that women should not raise their children anymore. I think that is one of the most important jobs that a woman can have. I mean, what could be a more important job than raising a child? Women should be allowed to be women!
Anyway, I hope that God blesses you with peace about the decision that you make!
Statistics: Posted by janw1256 — Wed Oct 17, 2007 11:11 am
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I do however agree that it is never enough. My oldest just isn't happy unless he is at someone's house or they are here.
Statistics: Posted by momo3boys — Sun Oct 14, 2007 8:53 am
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My child loves, really loves, people of all ages and animals. I think we have about 200 "friends" living right here with us...in her mind and her heart. Should she get to play with other children every day and all day, it would never be enough to "satisfy" her. On the other end, we had to back off of some social activities last spring and I think I felt sorrier for her than she did for herself.
The Lord told me that He would provide for her needs and He has. We were led to change churches to an even smaller one but with some activities for children, which the other lacked due to it being mostly seniors, and my daughter is a bit happier there although she also misses a few of our dear friends at the other one.
Also, I relaxed even more when I realized that I don't always have to provide a particular activity for socializing, that it can be completely unstructured. We just went to a couple of yard sales this weekend and she greeted everyone there and talked to people of all ages. At one, she ran around with a boy and then two girls and at another she played with some girls and a kitten. You should see her seize the opportunity to socialize while her waiting in line at a store... and I never really know what she is going to tell or ask the person ringing up our items.
Statistics: Posted by seekingmyLord — Sun Oct 14, 2007 5:26 am
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I had to actively work at setting up play dates and get togethers but they always wanted more even when I felt they were getting over stimulated.
Just thought I'd throw that out there.
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People get really offended and downright hostile about hsing and staying at home. I think it is jealousy/envy?? People don't want to do the hard work it takes and they don't want you to do it either...
Would you believe someone recently said to me that "a friend of mine home schooled her kids and they ended up hating her..." What???? I think she was trying to SCARE me into changing my decision to hs. NOT!!!
I am soooo thankful that I found this site! It is just what I needed.
I will definitely check out that book!!!
Thanks everyone!!!!
Statistics: Posted by Babydoop — Sat Oct 13, 2007 5:38 pm
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Usually people say that when they want more time with either you or your child. Sometimes it's because they had a distant relationship as a child with their parent or as a parent with their child and are somehow affronted you don't have the same situation.
There are ways to get your child into social interactions that are not at school. You can even create your own play group.
OTOH, a preschool at a private church is often a great experience for a child.
Let us know what you decide. I'm sure you'll make the right choice for you and your child.
Statistics: Posted by StellarStory — Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:13 pm
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Statistics: Posted by iamnettie — Tue Oct 09, 2007 8:41 am
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I don't know why people are so intimidated by the very thought of HS...probably because of all the hard work they think it takes!
Morgan and Ncmom - you guys are awesome!
Ncmom, I know exactly what you mean about the one car and the money. We only since this past summer we able to enroll in anything. Our church has a wonderful private school (very expensive) and has an awesome youth program, but it is 40 minutes away. I can't imagine taking the bus with my daughter...we live in an area that has progressively gotten worse over the years and some people in my neighborhood and surrounding areas look just plain "scary"... Sorry, not being judgmental, but I have to call it like it is...
Your comments are enlightening. Thanks, I appreciate it!!
Statistics: Posted by Babydoop — Mon Oct 08, 2007 3:06 pm
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The friends she has made in her classes (ballet/rec) are pretty distant...their parents come and leave without much conversation - she usually has to get all her social play needs (run, laugh, scream, sing and fall down) in when she goes to her rec classes because Ballet is pretty structured, even for her age. It has been hard making lasting friends...Ballet is 1 day/wk for 45 mins.
[Quote: She shows a fondness for other children, and seems sad on days when she is not around them, you say? That's a good thing. I wouldn't say she is lonely, because how many little girls do you know that aren't sad when they don't have somebody to play with one day? As long as she is happy and well adjusted around other playmates, that's fine. ]
Good point! WHEW!
I guess I'm just worrying too much. I hate to see her looking sad. She is such a happy-go-lucky person - something I never was, and that's why it upsets me so!
I do have a niece and nephew in the city ages 9 and 7, but they are so busy with homework, supplemental homework, soccer, etc., until we almost rarely get to see them anymore, even on the weekends. None of my friends have small children.
I guess I could always continue the rec center programs a few days a week and HS. I will have to do more research on play-groups and such for 4 to 5 year olds.
Thanks! Just knowing somebody HEARD me is comforting!!!
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