What do we know about the Father's role?

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What do we know about the Father's role?

Postby BroGeorge7 » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:09 am

Hello, I am a young minister, youth pastor, and student of seminary. I am currently working on my masters. The subject is on family worship. I am taking the direction of the father's role in the home as the spiritual leader (I am calling him the "Forgotten Pastor" because it seems that families have pushed the spiritual leadership role of their families off on young guys like me who have no children or young children at best.) I need recources that will help me to complete this work. I would appreciate any books or recources that would deal with the subject of the role of a father biblically, family worship, house churches, early church worship structure, or any other book that would lend toward the completion of this thesis. It is my desire to make this thesis into a prototype for shifting the youth ministry into a family ministry, with the intent of losing my job to the men who should rightly hold such a position-the fathers.

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Postby Miyu » Tue Oct 03, 2006 11:00 am

Take a look at Luther's Small Catechism.


The section on daily prayers that the father is to do with his family...it's simple, short, and a good place to start...if fathers took their duty seriously and made a point to simply do daily prayers with their families...what a difference that could make...

From there, they could expand to daily devotions, teaching, mentoring, etc...but family worship should start with prayer.

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Postby Mark » Wed Oct 04, 2006 10:33 pm

that is indeed a good place to start.. prayer...

interesting topic..

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Postby micheller79 » Thu Oct 05, 2006 1:13 pm

Hope you are successful.
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Postby momo3boys » Thu Oct 05, 2006 5:37 pm

www.nogreaterjoy.org is a great website. Debi pearl has written a wonderful book about the role of women, and Michael Pearl has many articles and a seminar (on video) about the role of men. THat might be a great way to start.
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Postby David » Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:47 pm

This is kind of long, but I thought the article was really good. You may find it useful.

(Editor's Note: From http://www.egwtext.whiteestate.org/mh/mh33.html)

The Father's Responsibility

The husband and father is the head of the household. The wife looks to him for love and sympathy, and for aid in the training of the children; and this is right. The children are his as well as hers, and he is equally interested in their welfare. The children look to their father for support and guidance; he needs to have a right conception of life and of the influences and associations that should surround his family; above all, he should be controlled by the love and fear of God and by the teaching of His word, that he may guide the feet of his children in the right way.

The father is the lawmaker of the household; and, like Abraham, he should make the law of God the rule of his home. God said of Abraham, "I know him, that he will command his children and his household." Genesis 18:19. There would be no sinful neglect to restrain evil, no weak, unwise, indulgent favoritism; no yielding of his conviction of duty to the claims of mistaken affection. Abraham would not only give right instruction, but he would maintain the authority of just and righteous laws. God has given rules for our guidance. Children should not be left to wander away from the safe path marked out in God's word, into ways leading to danger, which are open on every side. Kindly, but firmly, with persevering, prayerful effort, their wrong desires should be restrained, their inclinations denied.

The father should enforce in his family the sterner virtues --energy, integrity, honesty, patience, courage, diligence, and practical usefulness. And what he requires of his children he himself should practice, illustrating these virtues in his own manly bearing.

But, fathers, do not discourage your children. Combine affection with authority, kindness and sympathy with firm restraint. Give some of your leisure hours to your children; become acquainted with them; associate with them in their work and in their sports, and win their confidence. Cultivate friendship with them, especially with your sons. In this way you will be a strong influence for good.

The father should do his part toward making home happy. Whatever his cares and business perplexities, they should not be permitted to overshadow his family; he should enter his home with smiles and pleasant words.

In a sense the father is the priest of the household, laying upon the family altar the morning and evening sacrifice. But the wife and children should unite in prayer and join in the song of praise. In the morning before he leaves home for his daily labor, let the father gather his children about him and, bowing before God, commit them to the care of the Father in heaven. When the cares of the day are past, let the family unite in offering grateful prayer and raising the song of praise, in acknowledgment of divine care during the day.

Fathers and mothers, however pressing your business, do not fail to gather your family around God's altar. Ask for the guardianship of holy angels in your home. Remember that your dear ones are exposed to temptations. Daily annoyances beset the path of young and old. Those who would live patient, loving, cheerful lives must pray. Only by receiving constant help from God can we gain the victory over self.

Home should be a place where cheerfulness, courtesy, and love abide; and where these graces dwell, there will abide happiness and peace. Troubles may invade, but these are the lot of humanity. Let patience, gratitude, and love keep sunshine in the heart, though the day may be ever so cloudy. In such homes angels of God abide.

Let the husband and wife study each other's happiness, never failing in the small courtesies and little kindly acts that cheer and brighten the life. Perfect confidence should exist between husband and wife. Together they should consider their responsibilities. Together they should work for the highest good of their children. Never should they in the presence of the children criticize each other's plans or question each other's judgment. Let the wife be careful not to make the husband's work for the children more difficult. Let the husband hold up the hands of his wife, giving her wise counsel and loving encouragement.

No barrier of coldness and reserve should be allowed to arise between parents and children. Let parents become acquainted with their children, seeking to understand their tastes and dispositions, entering into their feelings, and drawing out what is in their hearts.

Parents, let your children see that you love them and will do all in your power to make them happy. If you do so, your necessary restrictions will have far greater weight in their young minds. Rule your children with tenderness and compassion, remembering that "their angels do always behold the face of My Father which is in heaven." Matthew 18:10. If you desire the angels to do for your children the work given them of God, co-operate with them by doing your part.

Brought up under the wise and loving guidance of a true home, children will have no desire to wander away in search of pleasure and companionship. Evil will not attract them. The spirit that prevails in the home will mold their characters; they will form habits and principles that will be a strong defense against temptation when they shall leave the home shelter and take their place in the world.

Children as well as parents have important duties in the home. They should be taught that they are a part of the home firm. They are fed and clothed and loved and cared for, and they should respond to these many mercies by bearing their share of the home burdens and bringing all the happiness possible into the family of which they are members.

Children are sometimes tempted to chafe under restraint; but in afterlife they will bless their parents for the faithful care and strict watchfulness that guarded and guided them in their years of inexperience.

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