Terrified, need support!

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Terrified, need support!

Postby dkatiemom » Wed Nov 15, 2006 9:29 am

I have made the decision, purchased all of the materials, and now comes the hard part of notifying the school. Oh, why am I so nervous?!

I am only pulling one child from school, and therein lies the problem. He has been sick with a bad sore throat and cold since Monday, and the timing couldn't be worse. His teacher sent me an email telling me that they miss him at the school, and when I dropped my youngest off today the resource room teacher leaned in the car and asked my oldest how he was feeling (he doesn't look very sick, and admittedly has been incredibly happy the last few days).

The longer I know but the school doesn't, along with the fact that ds has been out the whole week so far, brings that ugly mantra to mind: "..Oh, what a tangled web we weave..."

I guess this, in a way, is the last hurdle, yet it is the one that can get ugly in any number of ways. I feel like there must be one perfect way to get through it unscathed, I just wish I knew what it was!

I emailed the teacher back, asking for her personal email address (so that I can explain to her what we are going to do and why). It just seems so much more respectful and appropriate than uncerimoniously pulling him from the school with nothing more than a legal letter.

Any opinions here? Just as I want to do the right thing for my son (and it really is the right thing), I want to do the right thing with regard to the school that my children all attend and that I personally respect and admire.

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Postby elliemaejune » Thu Nov 16, 2006 1:00 am

Welcome to homeschooling in Texas :-)

Ok, here's the thing: You have an absolute right to teach your dc at home. As much as you like and admire his school, for some reason you have decided that it is best for him to be at home with you. Don't allow any warm fuzzy feelings for the school to affect either your decision to homeschool or the next steps you take to get him out for good.

You will need to notify the school office that you are withdrawing your ds. If you want, you can e-mail the teacher, but you still should notify the office yourself. It is not required by law; however, if you don't the school may think that he is truant and then you'll be in a mess :-o

You do NOT need to fill out any special forms or get any sort of permission or anything else. Your handwritten letter is sufficient. Do not give the school any more information than is necessary, such as a list of materials you'll be using. It is not required by law.

There are LOTS of hsers in your area :-)

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Postby Lenethren » Thu Nov 16, 2006 12:37 pm

Just remember, as his mom you know whats best!
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Postby Mark » Sat Nov 18, 2006 9:38 pm

they're correct dkatiemom. :)
hang in there.

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Re: Terrified, need support!

Postby Ramona » Tue Nov 21, 2006 6:54 am

Notifying the school means just that.

Parents do not have to ask the school for permission to withdraw a child.

Parents do not have to convince the school that homeschooling is best for the child.

Parents do not have to get the school to agree or approve or support the decision to homeschool.

Parents only need let the school know: The child is leaving.

The emotions of the teachers, resource personnel, and other school employees are irrelevant.

Planning to withdraw a child from school without keeping school employees informed of those plans during the planning process does not constitute deception. The school has no right to know the inner thoughts of the parents of its students.

The school does not need to give permission before a child is withdrawn.

The school does not need to agree or approve or support the decision to homeschool.

The school only needs to know who is on the rolls and who isn't.

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Postby BusyBee » Fri Nov 24, 2006 7:00 am

I never informed the school myself that my son was going to be homeschooled. I filled out the form necessary, brought it straight to the school board, received my notice from the board the very next day! :D And let the school wait for their letter from the board. You don't have to do ANY explaining to the school.

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Postby Mark » Sat Nov 25, 2006 11:29 pm

BusyBee wrote:I never informed the school myself that my son was going to be homeschooled. I filled out the form necessary, brought it straight to the school board, received my notice from the board the very next day! :D And let the school wait for their letter from the board. You don't have to do ANY explaining to the school.
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Postby RJ » Sun Nov 26, 2006 12:25 pm

I simply did not sign up my daughter at high school the next school year. I did get a call from the school; the lady was nice & polite. I simply explained that we were homeschooling that year. She sent a form. Since it parroted the state's minimal requirements and the same items as are on the THSC recommended letter format, I sent filled it out and sent it back. Haven't heard from them since. Texas Home School Coalition (a Texas version of HSLDA) has a lot of useful forms/info on their website: www.thsc.org

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Postby Gypsy'sMom » Thu Apr 12, 2007 9:52 am

Here is my thoughts on this subject, for what they are worth...My announcing that I wanted to HS my daughter got me horrified looks, questions a plenty, and so on. Some people just couldn't get over the fact that it was actually LEGAL to do this. What people (none home-schoolers and public schoolers) seem to lose sight of sometimes is that we (as parents) have a respossiblity to our children, to do whatever is nessesary to help them live full, happy lives. You are your childs parent...not the state, they...(for the most part) have no control over them. Instead of feeling bad, uneasy, or what have you...you need to be proud. You ARE doing this for the greater good of your children, and THEY are the only ones that matter. So when it comes time for them to graduate and go off to college or work, public school parents can smile with pride at their children, knowing what they have accomplish. Parents who HSed their children can smile at not only what their children have accomplished but the feeling of knowing that YOU yourself had first hand experience in molding them and helping them become what they are today...and THAT everyone is priceless.
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Postby Calla_Dragon » Thu Apr 12, 2007 12:41 pm

I wouldn't be so concerned with explaining yourself to the child's teacher. Feeling like we need to justify ourselves to teachers and officials could potentially turn into us legally having to justify ourselves - hence the "don't give them any more information than legally necessary" angle. Public schools already try to get homeschoolers to give up more information than is legally required and the more homeschoolers comply, the more we may be legally forced to give up in the future. I would follow the legal procedures in your state, thank the teacher for her time and concern, but say that you've decided to go in a different direction with his education and leave it at that. It's really nobody's business but your own.

Good luck and hang in there! It'll be fine and then you can get on with your lives. :D
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