I married late at 40, she married at 20 and had 2 children immediately. They're all grown up now and out of the house. I'm step-mom to a 7 year old whom I homeschool.
She is so totally against home-schooling, but she never actually yells at me about it or anything, so perhaps lambasting is a bad choice of words... but she just digs at me all the time, he's lonely, he's lonely, he's going to be mal-adjusted, he's going to be weird... I love my best friend with every fiber of my being and can't imagine my life without her but today it's just gotten too much.
The bad part is he has no outlet. There is no time away from you unless it's with his grandma and that's really not a good thing. Don't you ever wonder if he feels isolated from things
I wrote her a LONG letter. But I'm afraid to send it, because I can't stand the thought of losing her friendship.
Here it is, and mind you, I'm a bit self-deprecating so you'll have to excuse that in my words.
[quote][b][i]OK Iâ€™m prefacing this by saying I am not yelling at you or arguing with you or trying to convince you otherwise, and I totally, absolutely love that you and I can talk and have differing opinions about things and it doesnâ€™t cloud our friendship,
but you know, I know you hate that we homeschool, and no, itâ€™s not what I really wanted for him to begin with, but, I feel like heâ€™s actually getting an education and not just 5 hours of play time with an hour of school work. Thatâ€™s what it was all about at ---. Play time, I never heard that he did anything but play time or art time (and thatâ€™s probably what heâ€™d remember the most being a little child and all) and he couldnâ€™t spell anymore or write anymore after heâ€™d been in there for 6 months. In all that time he only brought home about 50 school papers, tons and tons of artwork and games they played, most of them having nothing to do with the 3 Râ€™s. Maybe since Iâ€™ve been out of touch on parenting, thatâ€™s all they would have done. If I hadnâ€™t been working, perhaps I could have gone and been an aide in class once in awhile and see what they did all day. But that just doesnâ€™t seem like school to me, and again, it was only first grade, but I seem to remember working really hard in first grade. Thatâ€™s not what I want for him. And I know it was just first grade, but thatâ€™s when their little minds are open books and it really bothered me that he couldnâ€™t spell or write anymore after being in â€œrealâ€