Impressed
Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 7:26 pm
Hello, Against Homeschooling!! and everyone else who has submitted to this thread. It is a great read!!
Against Homeschooling, I want to start out by saying how impressed I am with your writing and debating skills. I attended and was graduated from a private school. I would put money on it, that very, very few of my classmates would today be as articulate and clear in their writing as you are. It is definitely a gift.
From what I have read here, your main argument is that you were lonely as a result from your years at home. Perhaps not allowed, for whatever reason, to socialize and learn people skills. That is very sad and I can see how that might be possible in an extreme situation.
I am not going to argue with you over this issue but I would like to present my reasons for homeschooling my youngest two children. I would also like to say that most homeschoolers work very hard at making sure their children have the best. I believe that includes the best education, the best safe environment, and the best social skills.
I first looked into homeschooling about a year ago when my then 4 year old son was about to turn 5. This child is extremely intelligent and very social; however, he cannot sit still for long periods of time and he never shuts up. He is always talking and asking questions. If I put him into the school system, they are going to label him ADHD before the first day of school ends. I saw it happen when my 13 year old son entered the school system at age 5. I also saw it happen with my 18 year old son.
Socialization!!! Yeah both of my older boys have a social life alright. It is to the demise of their academic career though. They hate school because no one ever took the time to help them learn. The material was slung at them, probably while they were talking to the person sitting next to them, and it might have even been slung at them a second time before there was a test of some sort. After being in school all day, homework was the last thing they wanted to do. We fought. I cried. They cried. We fought some more. Then it was time for bed and we would repeat the whole scenario again the next day. Summers were spent dreading school in the fall. My 18 year old dropped out of school in the 11th grade. My 13 year old is doing fair, but the hormones are kicking in and I suspect next year is going to be hard for him.
You are probably going to jump in at this point and say it is the parents fault. However, I am not going to buy into that nor am I going to blame the teachers. It is the whole school system approach. It holds back the truly intelligent and loses the ones who cannot keep up. Only the middle of the road kids are going to be o.k. in the long run.
Now the socialization topic is scary to some of us who are just starting to homeschool. But I know a few things for certain. If I homeschool, my child will not be faced with drugs or alcohol, at least not on my premises. They will not be abused or bullied. The will have continuity of care and a stable, quiet environment in which to learn. They will learn the material before them, before they are pushed into something new. They will have friends and family around them very often. We socialize at least 3-4 times a week with other children their age.
It is true as you say that they may not have a huge pool of people from which to choose their friends. But I have always been very selective about with whom my children socialize. Could this be a bad thing? Maybe, in your opinion. However, my job is to get these boys to their 18th birthday and hopefully instill in them morals and a passion for life and learning. If that means keeping a tight reign on them, then so be it.
I want to thank you for your passion. You have given all of us here some valid points upon which to think. I am sorry that you had such a bad experience. I feel your frustration and your resentment through your words. I pray that you will have resolution in this area realizing that you have been given a superior education, as is relevant from your writings. Really you have encouraged me probably more to homeschool than not to just from your obvious English, grammar, and composition skills.
Blessings, Robin
Against Homeschooling, I want to start out by saying how impressed I am with your writing and debating skills. I attended and was graduated from a private school. I would put money on it, that very, very few of my classmates would today be as articulate and clear in their writing as you are. It is definitely a gift.
From what I have read here, your main argument is that you were lonely as a result from your years at home. Perhaps not allowed, for whatever reason, to socialize and learn people skills. That is very sad and I can see how that might be possible in an extreme situation.
I am not going to argue with you over this issue but I would like to present my reasons for homeschooling my youngest two children. I would also like to say that most homeschoolers work very hard at making sure their children have the best. I believe that includes the best education, the best safe environment, and the best social skills.
I first looked into homeschooling about a year ago when my then 4 year old son was about to turn 5. This child is extremely intelligent and very social; however, he cannot sit still for long periods of time and he never shuts up. He is always talking and asking questions. If I put him into the school system, they are going to label him ADHD before the first day of school ends. I saw it happen when my 13 year old son entered the school system at age 5. I also saw it happen with my 18 year old son.
Socialization!!! Yeah both of my older boys have a social life alright. It is to the demise of their academic career though. They hate school because no one ever took the time to help them learn. The material was slung at them, probably while they were talking to the person sitting next to them, and it might have even been slung at them a second time before there was a test of some sort. After being in school all day, homework was the last thing they wanted to do. We fought. I cried. They cried. We fought some more. Then it was time for bed and we would repeat the whole scenario again the next day. Summers were spent dreading school in the fall. My 18 year old dropped out of school in the 11th grade. My 13 year old is doing fair, but the hormones are kicking in and I suspect next year is going to be hard for him.
You are probably going to jump in at this point and say it is the parents fault. However, I am not going to buy into that nor am I going to blame the teachers. It is the whole school system approach. It holds back the truly intelligent and loses the ones who cannot keep up. Only the middle of the road kids are going to be o.k. in the long run.
Now the socialization topic is scary to some of us who are just starting to homeschool. But I know a few things for certain. If I homeschool, my child will not be faced with drugs or alcohol, at least not on my premises. They will not be abused or bullied. The will have continuity of care and a stable, quiet environment in which to learn. They will learn the material before them, before they are pushed into something new. They will have friends and family around them very often. We socialize at least 3-4 times a week with other children their age.
It is true as you say that they may not have a huge pool of people from which to choose their friends. But I have always been very selective about with whom my children socialize. Could this be a bad thing? Maybe, in your opinion. However, my job is to get these boys to their 18th birthday and hopefully instill in them morals and a passion for life and learning. If that means keeping a tight reign on them, then so be it.
I want to thank you for your passion. You have given all of us here some valid points upon which to think. I am sorry that you had such a bad experience. I feel your frustration and your resentment through your words. I pray that you will have resolution in this area realizing that you have been given a superior education, as is relevant from your writings. Really you have encouraged me probably more to homeschool than not to just from your obvious English, grammar, and composition skills.
Blessings, Robin