Why I am against Homeschooling

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Re: Why I am against Homeschooling

Postby jmurrellus » Sat Jul 09, 2016 6:45 pm

After having attended public schools myself and having gone through the experience of raising a son in public school, I have come to the realization that the misconception that homeschoolers are socially awkward has long plagued me. After considerable research and efforts to explore both sides of the socialization issue, I have come to realize that socialization in public schools has a significant amount of negativity attached to it. These are some of the conclusions I came to about public school:

1. There is a pervasive lack of supervision because of the teacher - student ratio.
2. Bullying (name calling, picking at a child, and so on) is fairly common. I mean, all I needed to do was examine my own school experience along with nearly everyone I know - all have reported bullying.
3. Influence matters. By this, I mean that I want to be the person to help my daughter develop her values.
4. Some things should be learned later. I want to be the person to teach my daughter about sex, and other touchy subjects. I learned about some fairly sensitive subjects in the girls bathroom around the age of 8 or 9. I plan to protect her innocence for a bit longer, then educate her fully so that she is equipped with facts.
5. Creativity and aptitude are, well, let's be honest...many schools in my area are reducing funds to music, art, and drama programs. Children need play! They need it when they are very young and even older. Creative expression breeds innovation.

I could go on and on and on with reasons to homeschool. I will end by saying that parents who choose this route should be committed to every area of development including socialization. My daughter who is six now is in cello class with same-age students. She takes dance, and plays sports when the mood hits her. There are so many options from activities at the local library to organizing our own homeschool play date.

Great conversation on this subject.

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Re: Why I am against Homeschooling

Postby SouthernApril » Fri Oct 07, 2016 2:33 pm

While I'm obviously a homeschooler, and support homeschooling, it is very interesting to see this type of insight. I wish there were more honest testimonials out there like this one.

Here is the best list of Pros and Cons that I've found.

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Re: Why I am against Homeschooling

Postby bestazy » Tue Jan 16, 2018 5:00 am

Hello,i got opinion about it from personal experiences.
Won't they be weird and unsocialized? Believe it or not, the most popular trump card against homeschooling is socialization. And this is probably because socialization is not something tangible that you can measure, so it's an easy trump card to throw.
Understanding what socialization is and isn't will help to dissuade that mindset. The interesting thing is that public school is the WORST place to learn how to socialize.
Socialization is not learned at school, there is no class in any public school to teach children how to "properly" socialize. They are thrown into the midst of 25-30 children, usually with only one adult present, and expected to learn from inexperienced children how to properly treat each other. This idea of socialization in public school has consistently failed over and over again.
A simple procedure such as reviewing the dictionary definition of socialization will reveal that socialization skills are best learned in the home. However, they are learned by modeling people who the child is around the most. Therefore, if you want your child to be well socialized, then put them around people who are civil and know how to treat others well. People who have empathy, compassion, and are not on brain control meds because they eat a diet of 90% processed sugars and synthetic food. People who are not constantly separating themselves into social groups based on their current cool factor. Do homeschoolers have social activities? You bet! So many that we get emails from homeschoolers constantly asking how to limit the number of social activities their children attend.
"Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow."pray for them.Bestazy.

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Re: Why I am against Homeschooling

Postby Tabby » Fri Apr 13, 2018 7:16 am

I think you're very brave posting that in a homeschooling forum!! :shock:
This is my main worry for my son (he's not even 3 yet so I'm still undecided on whether we'll follow through with homeschooling) he's so friendly and loves to play with other children, and friendships are so important for me, so I want my children to experience the same relationships that I have with my friends.

That said, I became friends with my best friend age 16 (despite being in the same school and not speaking to each other for years!) My other closest friends I met when I finished high school, and my oldest friends are from extra curricular activities (ice skating). So as long as my kids see other kids regularly so that they can really be close to them, I think they'll be fine.

Surely it depends on the parents? I don't want to criticize your parents at all, but as a parent you should know when your child isn't happy or when something just isn't right.

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